Ruminating on Relationships

What does it mean to you to be in relationship? With loved ones? Family? Friends? A lover/partner/spouse/soulmate? Do you appreciate your current relationships? Do you feel inspired by those you share with? Or do you find them unsatisfying or lacking in some way?

Do you read the DailyOm? I generally enjoy the bits of wisdom from this site and found today’s topic particularly relevant… Relationships can be life enhancing – beautiful, joyous and connecting. They can also be a source of great grief, struggle and confusion. When we are in them, we often want out. When significant and meaningful relationships are absent, our lives can often feel empty and void of purpose.

The DailyOm today says…”Before we embark upon the journey of finding the relationship that is right for us we may want to take the opportunity to refine our concept of who we are and our ideas of what we want from life…”


What kind of people have I aligned myself with?
What kind of people do I want to attract into my life

“Part of the journey of finding a mate is learning how to become our own mate. When we can learn to meet our needs without relying on someone else to complete us, we don’t have to form relationships from the space of needing our emptiness to be filled. We can also discover our intrinsic value, separate from what someone else might be reflecting back to us. Getting to know who we are and learning to love ourselves creates a solid foundation of self that we can bring to any relationship.”

How can I get to know myself better?

What do I need to do to meet my own needs?

“If you want to be in relationship, but haven’t found the right one for you, remember that the universe works in perfect order and, therefore, right now your life is unfolding exactly as it is meant to be. Maybe all this time has been part of your preparation period for meeting your intended partner. Even the relationships in our lives that haven’t worked out as we had hoped serve us by teaching us to make better choices in our next relationships.”

What have I learned about myself through past relationships?

Can I see the gifts they have given me?

“…Follow your heart, listen to your inner voice, continue to become your own soul mate, and stay open to love. The journey of finding the right relationship begins with being in right relationship with yourself…”

Can I enter into relationship with others from a place of wholeness?

How can I nurture my sense of self?

What do I need to do to be in right relationship with myself?